It wasn’t until I was into my 30′s that I heard someone question the value of worry. I was on a commuter train, listening to a podcast of an audience with Eckhart Tolle. This guy asked about how he would manage his household if he was always ‘in the present’…didn’t he need, he asked, to worry about taking care of this stuff.
Eckhart said something like agreement…the guy would need to take care of this stuff, but he didn’t need to pair it with worry… I had a wow moment.
It never occurred to me that stuff could get done without worry. Especially unpleasant stuff.
Yes, clichés told me not to worry. Friends brushed off problems with a don’t-worry-about-it remark. I had even told myself that I would put aside some issue and think about something else, which translated (in theory) to not worrying about it.
I’ll tell you this: I loved weekends away, vacations, trips to cute and quaint and posh and exotic and cozy…and well, anything that distracted me from thinking about what I didn’t want. I thought, at the time, that as long as the world offered me anything I didn’t feel like seeing or dealing with, that I should resist it by fretting, worrying, trying to control my response to it. I took respite in the times when I could look to only what I wanted to see in the world and feel pleased in that comfortable shadow.
I know this seems personal. But what I worried about didn’t matter. That’s not the point, for me or for you. It’s the practice of worry that most of us share. And there is a subtle difference between controlling worry to function and living a No Worry Life.
Do you know the difference between worried action and pure action?
Do you know how to get things done without worrying?
Do you try to control your future with worry?
Are you ready to go deeper than coping with worry to fundamentally clear out your dependence on fret?
Do you believe you’d be free if only you could quit your job, or find freedom in your experiences?
Do you feel like there are missed opportunities and lessons in your past that were dodged because you worried it wouldn’t work out (or because you failed to see clearly)?
If you want to be a part of this fresh way to live join me here for my project on living a No Worry Life.